Create & Join Events
Host your own events or join ones nearby. From casual hangouts and men's social groups to bate sessions — meet your M8s in person.
B8Mates — the social app where men find real mates first, and bate mates, wank buddies and everything else when they want it
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Hookup grids leave men lonelier than they found them. B8Mates is built the other way round: join Tribes around what you love, meet local blokes in real life, build a circle of M8s — and keep JO buddies, bate mates and hookups on the menu for whenever you fancy them. For gay, bi, curious and straight men. Discreet, encrypted, ad-free.
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Join as an alpha user and help us build a community that actually fixes male loneliness. Start a Tribe, host an event, make M8s and Close M8s — mates first, everything else optional.
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Everything You Need to Connect
Men can feel isolated — B8Mates gives you the tools to change that. Build genuine friendships with gay, bi, curious and straight men near you, join Tribes around shared interests, meet in real life at events — and find bate mates or JO buddies when you want them. Real connections first; everything else optional.
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Jordan, 32
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M8s & Close M8s
Build your network with M8s for genuine male friendships, and keep your inner circle tight with Close M8s — your closest mates and inner circle.
Tribes
Create or join Tribes built around shared interests — gaming, fitness, bating, or anything else. Post updates, plan Tribe-only events, and find your people.
Nut Streak
Track your 21-a-month prostate health goal with one tap, build a streak, and compete on private M8 and anonymous local leaderboards.
Zero Ads, Ever
Unlike Grindr and other apps, you won't be flooded with ads. Just pure social experience — the way it should be.
Location-Based Discovery
Find like-minded men near you with precise location features and distance filters. Discreet and anonymous.
Private Messaging
Chat securely with end-to-end encryption. Share photos and messages that stay between you.
Privacy & Discretion
Stay discreet and anonymous. Control who sees your profile, go DL-friendly, and connect only on your terms.
Whatever You're Looking For
B8Mates is one app for many kinds of men. Find out how it works for you.
For solo and shared sessions
Wank buddies & JO buddies
Built by bators, for bators
Bate mates & bators
Community first
Social app for gay, bi & straight men
No labels required
Bisexual & bicurious men
M4M, done properly
Men seeking men
Mates first
Male friendship & loneliness
Side by side
Grindr alternative
Mates, not just pins on a map
Sniffies alternative
Nut Streak
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Two thirds there — 7 more and the month is yours.
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Introducing Nut Streak
Twenty‑one a month. That's the number a long‑running Harvard study linked to roughly a 20% lower risk of prostate cancer — and honestly, who are we to argue? Nut Streak turns it into a habit you'll actually keep: log with one tap, watch your streak climb, and see how you stack up against your M8s and the blokes in your area.
Available when adult content is enabled in your profile. General wellness information, not medical advice.
One-tap logging
Log each session with a single tap, backfill a missed day, and edit or delete entries any time.
Streaks, stats & goals
Track this week, this month, the year and your averages. Hit the weekly or monthly goal and the app celebrates with you.
Compete with your M8s
A private leaderboard for your M8s and Close M8s, with last month's champion crowned at the top.
Anonymous local leaderboards
See where you rank in your suburb, city, state or country. Everyone is anonymous unless they choose to be seen.
You control who sees it
Share your count with everyone, just your M8s, only your Close M8s, or stay completely anonymous. Change it any time.
Designed for Your Privacy
B8Mates puts you in control. Stay discreet, go anonymous, or show your profile — connect with like-minded mates, find real male friendships, or just hang with your M8s.
Discover like-minded men and mates nearby with location features
Private and public photo albums
Encrypted real-time chat
Discreet mode and anonymous browsing
For real mates, bate mates & everything in between
Frequently Asked Questions
What is B8Mates?+
B8Mates is a free, ad-free social app for men aged 18+. It helps gay, bisexual, bicurious and straight men find bate mates, JO buddies and wank buddies nearby, make real male friends, join interest-based Tribes and create or attend local events — with end-to-end encrypted chat and strong privacy controls.
Is B8Mates a wank buddy app?+
It can be. Finding a wank buddy, JO buddy or bate mate is a first-class option on every profile, alongside friendship, hangouts and hookups. You say what you want, and so does everyone else.
Is B8Mates for gay men, bisexual men or straight men?+
All of them. B8Mates is for any man who wants to connect with other men. Orientation is optional on your profile, and discretion features like hidden face photos and approximate location make it comfortable for bi, curious and DL men.
Can I use B8Mates just to make friends?+
Yes. Many members use it purely for male friendship — set “friends” as what you are looking for, join a few Tribes and go to an event. Loneliness among men is real, and B8Mates is built to help with it.
How is B8Mates different from Grindr or Sniffies?+
The order of operations. Grindr and Sniffies are built to get you a hookup in the next twenty minutes; B8Mates is built to get you mates — the kind you still have in twenty years. Men spend hours on hookup grids and come away lonelier than they started. B8Mates puts friendship first: Tribes around what you actually do (surfing, gaming, camping, lifting, bating), real-life events with a group chat, and M8s and Close M8s so your circle has an inner ring. Everything else — bate mates, JO buddies, hookups — is on the table, but it is optional and it follows the mateship rather than replacing it. Also: no ads, encrypted chat, and far better privacy controls.
Is B8Mates free?+
Yes. Download and core features are free. Premium features such as starting new conversations and creating events are included free for alpha users for three months.
More questions? See the support page or read our guides.