Honest, practical writing for men — on friendship, loneliness, bating culture and looking after yourself.
Blokes have been bating together for as long as there have been blokes. Here is the surprisingly rich history — boarding schools, the 1980s jack-off clubs that saved lives, the rise of bator culture online — and why none of it was ever weird.
Read article →Most men could not point to their prostate on a diagram. Here is what it does, the symptoms worth a doctor's visit, when to start PSA testing, what the test actually involves, and the lifestyle habits — yes, including that one — that help.
Read article →One in eight men has no close friends. Only one in five got any emotional support from a mate last week. Loneliness is as bad for you as smoking. Here is the evidence, the reasons, and the blokes' guide to doing something about it.
Read article →Hairy palms, blindness, “low T”, running out of ammo — every myth about masturbation, debunked with actual research. Plus what it does for your sleep, stress and mood, how often is “normal”, and the one habit worth changing.
Read article →Practical safety rules for meeting men from apps, hosting or attending group bate and JO sessions, and looking after your sexual health — plus why cancelling, not showing up or stopping a session is never something to be ashamed of.
Read article →Men spend hours on Grindr and the like and still end up lonely. Here is why we built B8Mates around Tribes, real-life meetups and properly organised group sessions — and what we expect from everyone who uses it.
Read article →The Harvard study behind the “21 times a month” claim, what it did and did not find, and how to turn the number into a habit — without the hype.
Read article →Bate mates, JO buddies, wank buddies — what they are, how men find them, and the unwritten rules that make it work: consent, discretion, hosting and keeping it drama-free.
Read article →Male loneliness is at record levels. Here is why making male friends gets harder after your twenties, and five practical ways to build real mateship — including how apps built for friendship can help.
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